Have a think about your partner’s physical and genital state. All sexual encounters need stimulation, whether physical or psychological. This stimulation is a product of your brain and your sense organs: visual, touch, smell, hearing and even taste. It could be that your partner’s physical make up, smell or even taste does not provide the stimulation you need and may even have a negative effect. The fact is that even though her odour may be unpleasant to you, she might not even notice! Neuroscience has shown that like with all sensations if one is exposed to a constant smell, its sensory absorption diminishes and one becomes accustomed to it. You must have come across some friends with persistent annoying perfume. Do smokers mind each others’ kiss taste?
Also, as much as variety in sexual encounters is a Turn On, so familiarity is the opposite for a lot of men and often ignored due to the awkwardness of facing up to it Most societies promote monogamy as the norm whereas, as we will see in Step 5, the male brain is naturally developed to seek many partners for reproduction. Variety is usually a major Turn On.
As animals, men are also socialised to like or dislike smells, anatomy, and other personal factors. However, what is “normal” is an individual preference and as you are a product of your unique past, your likes or dislikes evolve and may not even be “normally acceptable”. You may have previously found your partner stimulating but not anymore as you have both evolved. Another awkward example could be that your partner’s vagina may be very slack offering lack of stimulation or very tight leading to stressful and uncomfortable attempts at intercourse in certain positions.
If these factors are present, you have to be brutally honest and deal with the negative factors affecting your ED.
Later in Step 11 we will look at the importance Sildenafil citrate Australia of communication with your partner. In Step 10 we will explore how it’s essential for you to find your Unique Situation Condition Factors that must be present for good Turn Ons and expression of your sex needs. With the right conditions, your Dick’s readiness to get erect will become straightforward – or straight upward! With continued wrong conditions and no communication, you are setting yourself up for an ED encounter.
This form of ED can be Acquired ED and/or Acute Situational – specific to a partner or situation or both.
